Surprise, Surprise: Women Would Rather Work For A Man Than Another Woman Because — Women Are Too Emotional
So says, or found, Chicago-Kent Law Professor Felice Batlan who surveyed 142 legal secretaries at larger law firms in 2009, and not one expressed a preference for working for a female attorney. This accords with what I saw those many years ago when I was a partner in a law firm. Conflicts between secretaries (who were all women) and women lawyers in the firm were much more prevalent than conflicts with male lawyers. Complaints by attorneys in the firm about their secretaries were higher among the women as well. The firm never officially took notice of this fact, it was just there for everyone to see but no one talked about it.
Forty-seven percent of legal secretary’s in Batlan’s survey expressed no opinion on way or another. But not one of the entire survey preferring to work for another woman is striking. So much for the sisterhood.
Here are some of responses Batlan found:
• “Females are harder on their female assistants, more detail oriented, and they have to try harder to prove themselves, so they put that on you. And they are passive aggressive where a guy will just tell you the task and not get emotionally involved and make it personal.”
• “I just feel that men are a little more flexible and less emotional than women. This could be because the female partners feel more pressure to perform.”
• “Female attorneys have a tendency to downgrade a legal secretary.”
• “I am a female legal secretary, but I avoid working for women because [they are] such a pain in the ass! They are too emotional and demeaning.”
• “Female attorneys are either mean because they’re trying to be like their male counterparts or too nice/too emotional because they can’t handle the stress. Either way, their attitude/lack of maturity somehow involves you being a punching bag.”
• Women lawyers have “an air about them.”
The mother instinct might explain some of the secretaries preference for a male attorney. If so, Men are easier to mother than other women, especially fiercely independent women lawyers. Here is what one of Batlan’s respondents said:
“My partner in particular tends to forget the little things. I often find myself tailing him as he’s walking out the door to a meeting going down a list of things he may need. Oddly, I don’t feel like my female attorneys need that kind of attention.”
Maybe this is just a phenomenon of the self-selected personality types that go to law school and become lawyers. But notice that the number one reason women secretaries prefer a male boss is that women are said to be too emotional. That’s not a trait just of women lawyers. If it were not true that women’s emotions are more complex the “male and female control panel” wouldn’t be as funny:
The male part of the control panel is just an on/off switch.
I have two cats, brother and sister. The female fusses about everything all the time. The male just eats, sleeps and stares out the window.